Hello beauties! I’m back again, this time with a completely different post than what I usually write. I’ve felt more compelled lately to write about “life stuff”, than beauty related things. Bear with me as a I try to find a balance of how to make both of those things happen.
Today, I wanted to talk about something that I talk about often with young adults that I believe is applicable to adults as well. For over a decade now, social media has played a huge role in daily life. We as a society have put so much emphasis on likes, comments, retweets, and subscribes. We constantly check-in, tag, and share posts that might hold a lot of meaning to us, but is it really worth it?
According to SocialMediaToday.com, the average American spends a total of 5 years and 4 months on social media in their lifetime. 5 YEARS! When I heard that statistic, my jaw fell to the floor. That’s 5 years that could have been spent talking with a friend, reading a book, or creating something new. When you think about it, scrolling on your phone really is one of the least productive things you could do.
However, the time we spend on social media isn’t the real problem at hand. Although it is an issue, there is something bigger than this. We are starting to lose touch with who we are as human beings.
The Real Problem
“My concern is that our generation will miss their destinies because they are too busy scrolling through everyone else’s.” -Christine Caine
A friend of mine posted this (ironically enough) on social media today, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. How often do we look at how perfect someone else’s life appears from behind a phone? How often do we compare our journey with theirs just based on the things they choose to post on social media. Comparison is a bigger problem now than ever before thanks to social media.
For me, this is a daily struggle. I look at former classmates of mine buying houses, getting married, and starting careers, while I’m still in college, single, and struggling. I feel like my journey is somehow less than theirs only because they show off how amazing their trip to Italy was over the summer. I know this isn’t realistic, in fact, I know deep down inside that it isn’t true…but why does it feel so real?
Social media literally warps our perception of who we are. So often we think less of ourselves because someone posts more of who they are. One of my favorite quotes that I make sure to share with my students as often as I can is that we compare our behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel without remembering that they also have a behind the scenes that they don’t share. How crazy is that? The thoughts that we have about ourselves are things that other people potentially thinking about themselves too! We tend to think that we are the only people who get envious of others, without remembering that we’re all human.
What Can We Do About This?
I have challenged myself lately to stop with the comparison, and I challenge you to do the same as well. Social media is fun, but don’t get wrapped up in it. Instead, be unapologetically YOU. Don’t compare yourself to that pretty girl on Instagram who gets a ton of likes. Focus on the things that make you unique. I guarantee you can find a lot.
I’m also not telling you to stop using social media. I love social media, and I think it’s an amazing tool for many different things. I just think that the emphasis we carry on it could be cut down significantly. Use your social media to be vulnerable, honest, and candid. Stop feeding into the idea that you don’t measure up. Create posts that showcase who exactly you are and what you’re passionate about. Spread love, spread positivity, spread light.
What are you challenging yourself to do with social media this month? Leave your thoughts in the comments!