Hey ya’ll. When I announced my rebranding, I said that I would write more posts on real things–things that actually affect me. Then, I got into a beauty rut & went right back to posting all about makeup and skincare. Rather than getting back into that rut, I want to write more about my passion in life…grief. In today’s post, I am going to tell you some of the tips and tricks I use to get through the holidays, while missing loved ones who have died.
1. Talk about holiday memories you had with your loved ones
Christmastime always reminds me of my dad. He was the best gift giver! My dad gave gifts that you never even know you wanted until you got them. I always remember this every year, and make it a point to talk about it. Maybe your loved one did something really funny one Thanksgiving, or they made the best Christmas dinner for you. Find the people who let you talk about your person, and gravitate toward them this holiday season.
2. Cry as needed
Tears are normal when we miss someone. You should always feel as though you are able to cry when emotions come up. The holidays are such a hard time if you’re missing someone who has died. If you feel the tears coming, let them come. Validate your own feelings, and don’t feel as though you are weak for crying.
3. Visit their grave
The way my mom grieves is decorating her parents’ grave. Every season, she brings new flowers to set out next to their gravestone, and Christmas is a good time to do this. Take a little time out of your day to visit your loved one who has died. Visiting their grave can be very therapeutic. You can share your memories with them, tell them how much you miss them, and reminisce on holidays that you spent with them.
4. Do something charitable
The holidays are always a good time to be charitable and donate time, money or resources. Find a charity that resonates with your loved one. Maybe they died from cancer, or were passionate about animals. You can find a charity that represents them and get involved. Not only is this a great way to feel good about yourself, but its also a great way to honor your loved one.
5. Don’t stop your life
The worst thing you can do is lock yourself up all holiday season. Being alone can be nice from time to time, but spending your entire holiday season by yourself can be lonely and painful. Try your best to not cancel plans, and make it a point to get out of the house. Your life does not stop because your loved one died. Grief is the price of love, but your loved ones would want you to live your life after their death.
What are your tips for getting through the holidays without the ones you love? Let me know in the comments below! As always, if you want to share memories of your loved ones, feel free to comment below with those, or hit me up on Instagram! My link is in the sidebar!